I had my annual performance review at work this past week. All the projects, all the hours, all the metrics were laid out in black and white. A year’s worth of work neatly packaged up and quantifiable with a boss telling me whether I did a good job or not.
It sort of made me wish parenting was as clear as the work we do at, well, work. But at home? With our kids? It’s so much trickier. It’s invisible work. We don’t know what’s working and what isn’t, what’s important and what isn’t. And we won’t know, possibly for decades.
It might be tempting to lean into the clarity of our jobs but that would only be a distraction from the real work. Important, invisible work. Continue Reading
All I want for Christmas is a crowded table. The kids want the presents. As a parent, I just want presence.
I love seeing them excited about the gifts but I get more excited when they don’t disappear into phones or air pods but pile into the kitchen to help with a meal and then gather around the table together.
That seems like a good measure of success as a parent. Continue Reading
These simple, one bowl dark chocolate sugar cookies are a simple twist on the classic confection that come together quickly and offer a satisfying double hit for either a chocolate or a cookie craving.
I was on the hunt for a cookie recipe to bake for a neighborhood block party. I wanted something easy and quick but offered something a little unique. Something that went beyond the usual chocolate chip contribution. Continue Reading
No matter the holiday, no matter the season, no matter the dessert spread, my Mom will always choose the cookies first. Chewy oatmeal raisin or chewy oatmeal chocolate chip cookies are her favorite. I’ve taken to stocking the freezer with frozen cookie dough so I’ll always have them on hand when she visits. Continue Reading
When a late night craving strikes for cookies, try these quick, healthy, and simple treats. These aren’t crispy I hesitate to call them cookies. It’s like making a pizza with a cauliflower crust. It is really pizza? It’s about setting expectations.
Still, these are good. Like a warm bowl of oatmeal in cookie-form. Just like oatmeal, the best part is this recipe is endlessly adaptable. Add in dark chocolate chips and that satisfy that chocolate sweet tooth. Try nuts. Or dried fruit. Or a little whole grains.
I promised the girls that I’d make an apple crisp this week. It’s likely I said it during a Sunday afternoon napping haze but I said it. Ally, you won’t be surprised to learn, loves the gooey fall dessert. But then the week got busy. She asked about it on Monday. Then Tuesday. Then Wednesday.
Parents tell their kids a lot of things. We tell them we love them, of course. That they can do anything. That they can tell us anything.
But we also tell them little things. That we’ll take them to the park. That they should pick up their clothes. Or finish their broccoli. Or that you’ll make an apple crisp this week.
It seems like an easy thing to say at the time, a small promise, but the small ones are just important as the big ones. If you conveniently forget a small promise, how can they trust your word when it really counts? The small ones build trust. As we inch closer to the teenage hinterlands, I think I’m going to need to stockpile all the trust I can.
So I made the apple crisp. And it was good. And this mean my kids will never miss curfew and stay out of reform school, right? Continue Reading
Who doesn’t want a little more whole grains in their diet? Whole grains are high in nutrients and fiber, can help reduce the risk of heart disease, support better digestion, and reduce inflammation. I’ve talked about adding whole grains to pizza dough, but what about baked goods such as cookies? Adding more whole grains into your baking is a simple and easy but there are a couple things to watch out for when you bake with whole grains. Continue Reading